Thursday, February 5, 2015

Bonus Segment, Part Two: Cheryl Strayed is a Coward

Bonus Segment, Part Two: Cheryl Strayed is a Coward


I still have one more chapter to review.  I was in the middle of writing that review this morning when I took a moment to read some of your replies on Cheryl's disaster of a FB post/meltdown (https://www.facebook.com/CherylStrayed.Author/posts/964856360206321).  Under Melisssa Dennison's reply, I decided to comment.  (*Cheryl has since removed the entire thread.)





Cheryl took time out of her busy schedule of Googling herself and looking in the mirror to respond:

"Erin ******, what a life you must have to spend your time on the social media pages of authors you hate. Get a dictionary and look up the definitions of backpacking and hiking. There's a difference. It can be true that you have done lots of hiking without ever having gone backpacking. It can be true that you have some wilderness experience without still having some things to learn. It can be true that you did lots to prepare for a journey and then you find there are some things for which you could not and did not prepare. But of course you don't want to know any of that. You don't know what to do with your sorrow and rage so you come here to share it with me. I wish you blessings on your journey, sister. Go find the beauty. It's there even for you."

That's all the invitation I needed.  I replied with this:


"Cheryl, before anything else, it's nice to finally (sorta) meet you, and I genuinely appreciate the fact that you did not immediately "zap" me from your page. Thank you for that, truly. You and I both know that I do not spend all of my time on your FB page-- or maybe you don't know that, but I don't mean anything insulting by saying so. *Because* I do not spend even a minute of my life looking at your FB page, I was unaware of your post until my readers brought it to my attention and I was hesitant to post a comment because of your admission that you immediately delete anyone who disagrees with you (as you've done with many of my readers). I fully expect that this very response will be deleted. Since, inexplicably, comments cannot be broken up into paragraphs, forgive me for what will appear to be a very long run-on paragraph ( FB needs to change its format). Look, Cheryl. I wanted very badly to like your book. I cannot stress that enough. My 76-year-old ex-nun mother suggested your book to me because she thought that I, as an experienced distance-hiker, would love it. I googled your book and it sounded amazing, and as the only radio station I listen to is NPR, I remember listening to an interview you did and goddamnit, I was genuinely *so excited* to read your book, and I mean that. Here's the thing, Cheryl. I was interested in your book because I thought it was going to be about hiking the PCT. I had never heard of you before and, that said, I never thought to myself, "I wonder what it's like to be Cheryl Strayed." I did, however, wonder, "What would it be like to hike the PCT?" I thought your book would answer that question and I was wildly disappointed. The PCT is like a background extra in your book. The book itself is all about you and your feelings and so on and so forth and I was disappointed. I've found many inconsistencies in your book-- and PCT hikers have emailed me with proof that my apprehension about the validity of your claims is solid. What we don't like is that you seem to be lying and you are making a load of money off of your lies. We are also upset about the fact that you continue to encourage people to go do what you claimed to have done with no preparation whatsoever, and for that, you should be ashamed. People are going to get hurt or killed, and that's very irresponsible of you. Finally, and forgive me for saying so, I don't believe you are a very good writer. I am not a writer. I wanted to be a writer, and I even had a journalism scholarship in high school, but it was taken away because I was openly gay and the school board didn't approve of my editorials in the school newspaper about gay rights-- this was back in the nineties when this sort of fuckery was still acceptable. I gave up on writing, Cheryl. I gave up due to this episode in bigotry. I'm no writer. Despite this, I'm still capable of calling bullshit, and I don't believe your story. Your mileage doesn't add up, your stories don't add up and again, your writing leaves much to be desired. I'm not impressed with you. Go ahead and delete this and "zap" me from your page. I don't believe I've been disrespectful; I've simply dared to have an opinion."


Cheryl deleted this comment because she is incapable of responding to criticism and I have now been blocked from commenting further.  She also deleted my other comments, but left up her response to my non-existent comments because that's how Cheryl rolls.

Please feel free to bombard her FB page with your thoughts about this.

https://www.facebook.com/CherylStrayed.Author/posts/964856360206321

Once she blocks you from her page, feel free to email her at her fake FB account:

https://www.facebook.com/ginger.nile?fref=ts


What a coward.


*** 2/6/15 UPDATE ***
Many thanks to Mercer for alerting me to Cheryl's FB post from today (contrary to what anyone might think, I do not look at Strayed's FB page unless someone sends me a link).  She posted the equivalent to " :( " and waited for all of her idiot followers to bombard her with concern-- "Why are you sad-face, Cheryl?  You're totes the best, we <3 you!"

Here it is:

https://www.facebook.com/CherylStrayed.Author/posts/967256179966339


This is what my friend, Brian, decided to post as a comment on her :(




Can't.  Stop.  Laughing.

65 comments:

  1. Cheryl's response makes me want to simultaneously throw up and punch her in the face. How disgustingly condescending. She's acting like she's the next big spiritual leader or something, doling out insincere words of wisdom to all her little followers. Ick.

    And if I may be so bold to say so, I have to disagree with one point in your response. You are clearly a writer, and always will be, regardless of bigoted douchebag school boards. Your blog wouldn't be nearly so entertaining if you were a crappy writer with no sense of grammar, style, or comedic timing. I don't need to tell you that being published does not equal being a writer, because we have very clear examples that that isn't the case (Cheryl is only one of many published "authors" that make me question the publishing industry as a whole). If you're a writer, you're a writer. Simple as that.

    Anyway, I love you, and please keep writing even when you're done with all this "Wild" crap.

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  2. Cheryl Strayed told me to get a dictionary and look up words. *Cheryl Strayed* did this.

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    1. Guess she doesn't understand how dictionaries work. Just like she doesn't understand mountains and everything else you've pointed out so far.

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  3. "even for you"

    *even*

    Fuck. this. bitch.

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    1. She's such an inspiration, isn't she?

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    2. I was already pissed from the first sentence on, but that was the tipping point for me. Just....ARRGGH. Want to punch. So bad.

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  4. I came over from GOMI and I just wanted to comment and say that I fucking LOVE your blog. I read it all in the span of like, two days. I found Cheryl relatable at first--a woman in her twenties just struggling with life in general (heroin aside)--but she becomes so unlikable over the course of the book and it turns into sappy, overly symbolic claptrap. But seriously, I'm so impressed at how you totally debunked everything--I would not have had the wherewithal to do that, and now I can use your evidence to support my dislike of the book (credited to your blog obviously!). You're doing God's work ;).

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    1. Elly, thank you so much. I still have the last chapter to review and I'm dreading even the thought of doing so. Writing this review stopped being fun for me a long time ago. You-- the readers of this blog-- are the reason I keep going. I look forward to your comments and the fantastic discussions that follow. Elly, thank you again.

      All of you, thanks. You make this worth the effort.

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  5. Well, dammit. I wrote a comment and then went to sign in, and somehow it just disappeared. Just want to say, as usual, thanks for continuing this blog to the end. I still can't believe no one has told The Oprah she blew it again, but maybe no one wants to take responsibility and lose their job. This is just like James Fry's fictional "memoir," yet nothing is forthcoming. I suppose it won't be, since the story has now been made into a movie. Now it would be more than just an embarrassment, it would be a scandal. The Oprah's fans will support anything she says is good, without question and without criticism. I mean, how could they criticize A Black Woman in any way?? They aren't worthy!!

    Anyway, I came into this whole thing backward, having seen the movie with a group of friends, completely unknowingly. In the first scene of the movie, where Cheryl is not seen, but is heard making orgasm/sex noises, as we follow the camera up a mountain, finally seeing her rip her toenail off and scream, and knock her boot down the mountain, I thought to myself, "Oh dear." And it went downhill from there, like the boot's trajectory. After the movie I sought out reviews of the book on Amazon and found plenty of critical reviews, which finally led me to this blog (the only negative publicity I can find on Ms. Strayed on the internet.

    I hate liars. Lying destroys trust, sometimes forever, unless the person owns up to the lies and is scrupulously honest from that point on. Few people have the courage to do so. It's obvious that Cheryl Strayed is a made-up person, and has no integrity. She can't own up to her lies because her entire self is a fiction. I believe nothing that she writes. Also, her writing is no better than that of an average middle-schooler, so she has nothing to brag about on that front. But narcissists fool many people with their created lives. I'm glad others aren't fooled by her fiction.

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    1. "...I thought to myself, 'Oh, dear.'"

      That made me laugh aloud, and there is nothing in this world better than laughter. Oh, good times. Thank you for that.

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    2. Glad to have given you a laugh - you've given me many over the course of the last couple of months.

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    3. Juliane,

      I did the SAME thing...it's so frustrating. I wrote this long response saying 'Hi' to everyone etc etc and lost it all...so I gave up-haha. Google screwed me.

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  6. Hi Gang and F-Cheryl!

    I posted my first blog entry. Take a look at see what you think: http://mercercreed.blogspot.com/2015/02/preface-from-annoyed-to-angry-about-wild.html

    This wont be anywhere near as entertaining as Cali's, but I do want someplace to systematically list and keep track of all her lying lies. Please share any constructive criticism. I'm not a writer, nor am I a person who follows-up on much of anything that isnt related to my day job, but I am compelled to action by the wing-nut bullshit that is Cheryl Strayed and alter ego, Enormous Ego Girl.

    Plath you Cheryl, moo moo moo.

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    1. GODDAMNIT, I just left a comment on your brand-spankin' new blog and for some reason, it posted twice. I went to delete the duplicate post and BAM everything was gone. I will try again. Ugh.

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    2. Something is awry with your blog, friend. I can't post comments without the site going bonkers. Please delete the duplicate comments.

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    3. Same thing happened to me just now. I left it as is so that maybe Mercer can fix it. It's a great start and I am thrilled to now have 2 blogs to read about this hideous fraud. Bravo to both of you!

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    4. lol! Not sure what happened there Cali, but I cleaned things up. I have no idea what happened as I'm pretty new to this format.

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  7. Erin, Alyssa, Elly, Julianne, Pink Pearl, Tori, Mercer, Lauren & all the "regulars"...I have so much to say in regard to this but I am in the busiest time (this week) with my job! Yesterday, I was working at home, listening to the Diane Rehms Show on NPR & they were talking with this Brit who did a documentary on Lance Armstrong & the fallen hero effect, which caused these flashes to go off in my head about this "cheryl" thing (I am purposefully not captitalizing her 1st initial) & the fact that I do think she has sociopathic tendencies. In addition, last night, getting ready for bed, talking to my husband about the "cheryl" thing, & this blog & he had made some insightful comments concerning books by Hemingway, Kerouac & my personal fave: Steinbeck. I know this sounds weird, but I've got to put my thoughts together & comment again. I do think that cheryl is feeling the walls closing in...her FB page has all her celeb photos now (you know, to prove how important and real she is). After next Wednesday, I'll have more time, but I'm still gonna keep checking the blog until then, dammit! But yes, Erin...please keep writing about whatever pops into your wise & darling head. You know, we do love you...there really is this big connection amongst us, across North America, it seems. Goodnight for now...

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    1. Not just in North America. I'm in Germany and I adore Cali's blog (plus I'm from Cali, so there's that). And my girlfriend in Guam is who turned me onto it. You're global, Cali! For real, though, thank you for brightening my day every time you post. Your work makes all tingly and happy inside :)

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    2. Alison! Thank you for reading, and I'm delighted to know that I can brighten your day.

      I was stationed in Hanau back in my Army days; where are you and whatcha doin' over there?

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    3. I'm in the Navy, stationed in Stuttgart. I mean, that's my day job, but my free time is spent laughing out loud at your rage (saying "your pain makes me giggle" sounds harsh, but I mean it with nothing but love and compassion!).

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    4. I sorta like that, actually. I just might have a t-shirt made that says "Your pain makes me giggle." I'll send you one.

      Thanks for your service, Alison! Get back home to California safely.

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    5. As the friend from Guam who got Alison hooked (and hooked and hooked and hooked) on this blog, I'm going to need one of those shirts, as well.

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    6. I'm a good Cheryl, not an evil one, for what it's worth. God damn that bitch for having my name.

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    7. Consider it done. Let me know your sizes and I'll send them to you. Free t-shirts for Active Duty Soldiers, Sailors, Marines or Airmen!

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    8. I'm just a navy wife. I'll pay (and pay and pay and pay) for mine. Ha!

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    9. Spouses deserve just the same, as far as I'm concerned. Your job is just as hard. Yours will still be free. Email me your size and address. Same goes for you, Alison!

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    10. May I respectfully request that the shirt say "your pain makes me giggle and giggle and giggle"? Because Cheryl.

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    11. OMG I'm *profoundly* ecstatic about this t-shirt! Good Cheryl already knows I love (and love and love) her, but now Cali is on the short list as well. <3

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    12. Sweet! I'm rethinking my "free t-shirts for every member of the military" thing. I think I went full Cheryl and thought for a second that I was the Oprah of t-shirts. *YOU* GET A T-SHIRT AND *YOU* GET A T-SHIRT AND-- the end. Just the two of you. But you both are totally getting free t-shirts; I'm not kidding. Navy Alison and Good Cheryl, send me your sizes and APO addresses. Califohioan@gmail.com. I'm waiting. You have my word.

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  8. Oh, Mercer! Your comment came up after I posted...I can't wait to read it! Hugs to all (yes, I've had a couple of glasses of wine)...

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  9. Go Cali! I Thank you so much for pushing through to the end! Psychopath Strayed must be so pissed at how much this blog has grown. Also, welcome to the "zapped forever" club!

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  10. What "writer" attends awards shows, gets all glammed up, and schmoozes with the celebrities?!

    And I'm perplexed as to how and why Reese Witherspoon bought the rights to the book before it was even written. Something smells bad.

    My birthday is coming up and my wish will be that her fabricated crap falls apart into "A Million Little Pieces, and that The Oprah Machine gets wind of the truth, or lack thereof.

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    1. My point exactly (from yesterday). She is drunk on her own self-importance. Of course, she is laughing all the way to the bank. Which causes me to ask: why, then, is she so thin-skinned? Who cares what we think? She does, and she feels the need to rally her fans in outrage. Very small-minded of her. If she's a celeb wanna-be, she's going to have to face the fact that not everyone will love her. She seems to be having a MAJOR problem with that.

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    2. How much time and energy does this woman waste by constantly monitoring her FB page in order to delete anyone who says something she finds threatening? It must be exhausting.

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    3. By the looks of things, a LOT. It's downright nauseating how people fawn over her, and how she laps it up. Ermahgerd, I'll bet she's reading this right now and cursing the fact that she can't zap us off this blog.

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    4. I am (of course) blocked from Cheryl's page, and good god, my friends on FB are having a goddamned field day with this. One friend left a fairly innocuous comment on Cheryl's page, didn't get blocked and was sad about not getting blocked. I suggested that she write something a little more, you know... insulting. I even made a suggestion. She asked if she could just copy-and-paste it to Cheryl's page and omfg, she wasn't kidding. She posted the whole thing, quotes and all:

      "HEY, CHERYL STRAYED, YOU'RE AN INSECURE ASSHAT AND IT MUST BE EXHAUSTING TO CONSTANTLY MONITOR YOUR STUPID FB PAGE IN ORDER TO DELETE EVERYONE WHO THINKS YOU'RE A GIANT LIAR."

      I love that she accidentally included the quotes. Cheryl must be just shitting herself, wondering who's being quoted.

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    5. Cheryl must be walking the red carpet with Reese/Laura/Oprah, because this comment has been up for two whole hours and hasn't been zapped: "Can anyone disagree with anything the author wrote without getting deleted and blocked? I thought this was public and people were allowed to say what they wanted. Even if it's not heaping praise on the author????"

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  11. Additionally, I sent the following to "Ginger Nile":

    Greetings Cheryl:

    I think it would be really cool if you would use your platform to advocate and promote some basics regarding trail safety and Leave No Trace principles. Also perhaps post some blogs of other PCT hikers to provide a starting point for new hikers interested in hiking the PCT. You see, I believe that, at this point, you have the obligation to be an information source for the PCT, seeing how many people you have inspired. Forgive me for not posting on your real facebook page, but you "zapped me forever" when I posted a comment in a similar vein. I would greatly appreciate a response regarding what, if anything, you intend to do about the above. What is your real passion, Cheryl? Money? Fame? Or the wilderness? What will you choose?

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  12. I went to the PCT Association FB page and found them slavering over her, so I wrote this to one post:

    " I hope no one is seriously hurt or dies on any trail because of the fiction of this "memoir." No one should follow this book as a guide; if the author had actually hiked the PCT the way she says she did, I believe she would have had to be rescued, putting others in danger. People should prepare and not believe works of poor fiction."

    And on a video of her asking people to contribute to the Trail Assoc. I wrote this: "Oh thank you Cheryl Strayed, for writing about your own stupidity in going out on the trail totally unprepared! What an inspiring way to cause others to put themselves in physical danger by doing the very same thing! Oh you are so inspiring!"

    I'm sure they will delete these comments, which is why I wanted to put them here, for the record. Of all the organizations that should be calling her out on her bullshit and warning people NOT to undertake any such (fictional) hike, this should be the one. But no, the circlejerk over The Queen of the PCT goes on...

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  13. Read this: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder/basics/symptoms/con-20025568

    ...and tell me it doesnt describe cheryl perfectly.

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    1. Holy shit, they may as well rename it Cheryl Strayed Personality Disorder. I bet she'd probably like that, actually.

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  14. Lauren Ashley added an excellent comment to Part Twenty-Three. Please read it.

    http://cherylstrayedisaliar.blogspot.com/2014/12/part-twenty-three-of-review-of-wild.html?showComment=1423257801245#c8641743549921019228

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  15. Brian was not *zapped* right away and left this comment, as well:


    "Sometimes cruelty and criticism just come from a place of seeing someone manipulate and fabricate stories to engender attention in a world where people are celebrity worshiped for having very little actual value.

    Sometimes that criticism comes from a completely natural sense of disgust when someone creates a false narrative or brushes off self awareness while simultaneously proposing to have answers and insight.

    Sometimes people are just tired of all the wrong people being congratulated for what amounts to hop-skipping through a game of Mad-libs with repetitive nouns and verbs in a tale of transparent fairy tale events and horrifically unlikely dialogue.

    Yes, making things up and presenting yourself as an ideological warrior for your fake battles should leave you feeling guilty, particularly when the trail of real people you've left in your wake have never been made whole by all the awful things you did on the way to being 'found'.

    Cheryl: 1
    Metaphorical and real life horses: 0"


    His comment is so well-written that I'm pretty sure Cheryl won't understand what he's saying. He might just be able to avoid the zap due to Cheryl's own idiocy.

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    1. She deleted my comment too, where I replied that "blatant liars shock me". How in the world did she know I was talking about her?'!?!

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  16. Nice one Brian!

    So we can add to the list of Cheryl's many crimes: vaguebooking. Ugh.

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  17. Just an FYI, everybody-- I'm still working on my review of the final chapter, but I'm not finished yet. I'm going skydiving tomorrow and if I die, I apologize ahead of time for not finishing my review. Wish me luck!

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    1. Make sure you wait until you're on the plane and at altitude before you pack your chute. You wouldn't want to prepare for something like this. You'll get a better life lesson if you just charge blindly into it. Just forge ahead without proper prep and it will all work out okay.

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    2. Facilman, this made me laugh so, so hard, you don't even know. Oh god, thank you so much for that.

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    3. Don't forget the condoms! An essential part of every excursion!

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    4. Omg, I'm so glad I checked this. I totally would have forgotten the condoms. Juliane, you probably just saved my life.

      *rushes off to the condom store*

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  18. If you die I would be gutted and wrecked. I would cry and cry and cry.

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    1. Ahem. You would be *shattered*.

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    2. I want to be cremated if I die; maybe you guys could come down to SoCal and munch on my bones and stuff. It's how people grieve.

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    3. I'd pair Cali's bones with white Stilton cheese and a tawny port, followed by a fig and prosciutto flatbread. Oh who am I kidding, I'd be hitting on all the nurses and wondering what was in their pants....

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    4. No fava beans and a nice chianti for anyone, and no Debbie Does the ER for Mercer. I lived.

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    5. Hooray! I've been spending my time reading the 2-star reviews on Amazon (most should have been 1-stars, but the reviewers were kinder than they needed to be) and reading the negative reviews of the movie on Rotten Tomatoes (again, as with the book, most are very positive). A few of them have been negative and have made me snort with laughter. Looking forward to further giggles with all of you.

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  19. Greg posted this..."June 24, 1995: She was just breaking camp at 10 a.m. She left Mojave about 10 days ago, or more, and I was the first hiker she met! She seemed very happy to meet me since she had no one to talk to for more than a week. She is hiking about 10 miles per day."
    He's talking about meeting Cheryl on the PCT. Two things to note.
    This provides her start date: June 14. This completely obliterated her "snowy peaks" and icy socks story. Also, did any of y'all see problem #2?
    Cheryl is so insanely glad to see him because she has had no one to talk to between Hwy 58 and Joshua Tree Spring. Really? Joshua Tree Spring is 11 miles North of Walker Pass. Um. What about Frank and wife? Milkshakes? Ridgecrest?

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    1. There you go. So much bullshit. Also, 10 miles a day? That's all The Queen of the PCT could manage? Did she ever increase her daily mileage?

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  20. I just want to say that I've absolutely loved this blog; it has been hours of entertainment and so much fun to read. Califohioan, you are an incredible writer! I'm so glad I found this before wasting money on the book or movie; I would have hated it, and this has been ***profoundly** (your fav word) better. hahaha. Hope you're doing well, and keep posting awesome things!

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  21. Wonderful put up, very informative. You must continue your writing. I’m confident, you’ve a great readers’ base already!

    Jin
    www.imarksweb.org

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  22. Califohioan-I absolutely adore your writing, and I am very picky.

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  23. Well, I totes loved, loved, loved this blog! From start to finish. What patience, drive and amazonian (oops - Amazonian) awesome-ness!

    Great writing, it's pleasure to have found this and it validates my thoughts on the quality of the writing & editing in/of the book (the content is a load of shite, and knew that).
    Thank you for giving me a great Saturday afternoon read while all it"s done is rain, rain, rain - from the sky....would you believe it!



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